Can you be alone?

Can a person be alone for a long period of time and not feel like they need a romantic partner or a friend to talk to? Does one become a "loner" if they do.

I believe that every person should find in their own way how to be alone. Its important. Here is why I think we all should.

After a brake up with your romantic lover, we feel lonely, hurt, dumped, unloved, unlinked, we feel like the whole world has crashed on top of our heads and there is no way out. We seek comfort from family and friends...which helps...because they tell you everything we already know...so its temporary. So...we party and start meeting new people to help a numb the pain. Our friends are excited couse we are "single" and they have a new party buddy, and you are getting all the attention you need. Couse you are weak.

Sure you are a sexy party animal and all the boys and girls want you...do you realize that you have the pain still inside you.?Do you realize that its suppressing and its not going away?

You met someone only after a couple of days...or weeks. Oh its great! Who cares about your EX...what a looser. What was I thinking? Right?

Well the new person 9/10 will be the wrong person for you, because you have attracted someone like you, someone that is going through their own suppressed pain. Do you think it will last? Nope. Rebounds never do. Sooner or later it will end in a disaster.

So, you are hurt again. Not as bad this time, but you keep going... "more fish in the sea!"

Someone once told me in High School : " giving your self is like putting duct tape on your hairy arm...then you rip it...ouch!...use the same duct tape and place it on the same spot a min later...then rip it again...ouch but not as bad...do it now until it doesn't hurt anymore...".

We never give ourselves a chance to heal and be alone. Who are you? We give so much of ourselves to the people that we care so much about that we forget to learn about "ME".

Stop the cycle...just stop and think of who you are and what you want to become...the only way to find out is to be alone. Not a week or a month... once you are ready you will know.

Till next time,

DS

P.S. One day at a time

Never make someone a priority when they make you an option

I am not a medical doctor or even a University Graduate. I am a 27 year old woman that has been on both sides of love. You know... feeling where the whole world shuts down.... and the ultimate nightmare of realizing you are not sleeping, this pain is real.

On this blog I want to share my experiences about love and other relationships. I will blog stories and thoughts that come both from me and people in my life that share them with me.

I want to start of with a quote. "... never make someone a priority when they only make you an option."-unknown

What does that mean?

Many of us put our selves last. We seem to care more of how the other person feels about us or what they think of us, that we forget who we are. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you try so hard to please the other person and never step back and see if they would do the same for you. Yes. We all do it. Well its time to stop. Why you ask?

There is a voice inside of us and we don't listen. That voice that tells you " hey! what are you doing?"..."is it all worth it?"... " you know this is wrong!"... " you will hurt after, you know you will." Yet, we still do it. Its like we close our ears and eyes and run after someone... who doesn't care.

It sounds stupid doesn't it? We make excuses to ourselves over and over again, explaining the situation in our minds, how its complicated. Is it complicated? Or do we make it complicated?

Is it because it hurts to let go of something that failed? Does it go back to our childhood where we were bruised by rejection? How can we love someone if they don't love us back? Is it love? OR is it infatuation with something you can't have?

I want my blog to be a place where we can share pain and bliss of love.

This is it for now. I will blog every chance I get.

Enjoy!

DS

P.S. One day at a time.