You know those romantic nights... where the passion and desire is so strong that you just cant wait for the making love part? Most of us have experienced it...
When you are intimate with your partner ... you are in a different zone... your mind is at ease and only with the person in front of you. Its funny ... you guys have done this so many times but it feels like the first time , every time. This is love that took a lot of time to build. This is 3 years in the making. Many tears and pain...but you are still making it.
The door bell rings...
Who is at the door?
Yes... it is another girl...
His real girlfriend...
No! This is not cool! Don't be understanding! Walk out... never look back... he will only manipulate you over and over again.
He will lie...and lie...and lie...
You will believe and believe and believe...
Some men just are not able to commit... so wait for the one that can...with COUSION.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Monday, August 31, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
What is Love...
“Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
- The Bible
DS
P.S. One day at a time
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Do something different today
We all have a routine. Some of us do the same things for years. From getting up in the morning and hitting the shower to setting the clock at night.
Take a day off and go to the beach. Read a book that you have been staring at for the last little while. Go and try Sushi. Write a song or a poem. Call up a friend in need and try to resolve an issue together. Start writing a Blog. :) The possibilities are endless. It will help you grow and discover more about yourself.
Sometimes doing something different is a good thing.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Take a day off and go to the beach. Read a book that you have been staring at for the last little while. Go and try Sushi. Write a song or a poem. Call up a friend in need and try to resolve an issue together. Start writing a Blog. :) The possibilities are endless. It will help you grow and discover more about yourself.
Sometimes doing something different is a good thing.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Friday, August 14, 2009
Letting go takes Love
Have you ever had to let someone you love go? Not on a trip or a party. I mean ... have them leave your life because the relationship was not healthy.
Its so painful. It almost feels like someone died and the only thing that keeping you going is that they are not dead.
You know that its the right thing for both, yet somehow you still wanna bargain with God and say: "well...maybe...it could work if I just...or he just...or she just...". The truth is, you are in this situation because you are suppose be. There are reasons why you are letting go. Focusing on them will get you through it.
There will be days where all you want to do is cry and complain. And there will be days where you just feel so free. As time goes by there will be less of the bad and more of the good.
Until one day you are a beautiful free butterfly.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Its so painful. It almost feels like someone died and the only thing that keeping you going is that they are not dead.
You know that its the right thing for both, yet somehow you still wanna bargain with God and say: "well...maybe...it could work if I just...or he just...or she just...". The truth is, you are in this situation because you are suppose be. There are reasons why you are letting go. Focusing on them will get you through it.
There will be days where all you want to do is cry and complain. And there will be days where you just feel so free. As time goes by there will be less of the bad and more of the good.
Until one day you are a beautiful free butterfly.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Hello is anyone out there?
So far I have had 79 views of my blog, and it only been 3 days. Its nice to know that someone is reading but no one is commenting :(. Please feel free to comment and tell me what you think of the topics. Is my writing irrational ? Stupid? Inspirational? Or just plain "blah blah I know all this tell me something I don't know..."?
My next topic is going to be about letting go of someone you love.
Stay tuned.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
My next topic is going to be about letting go of someone you love.
Stay tuned.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Expectations.
We all have expectations. We have them for ourselves and for everyone in our lives. We set the bar so high or so low for some people. And with some people we have no expectations.
So what happens if they are not able to reach our expectations. Did we set the bar too high? Did we set ourselves up for disappointment? This relationship could possibly end up in a disaster zone if the expectations are not met. This person is incapable of pleasing you. They give so much of them selves to make you happy that ...they loose them selves.
If you care about a person in your life and they care equally for you...lower your expectations and see what happens.
DS
P.S. One day at a time
So what happens if they are not able to reach our expectations. Did we set the bar too high? Did we set ourselves up for disappointment? This relationship could possibly end up in a disaster zone if the expectations are not met. This person is incapable of pleasing you. They give so much of them selves to make you happy that ...they loose them selves.
If you care about a person in your life and they care equally for you...lower your expectations and see what happens.
DS
P.S. One day at a time
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Butterfly
I pulled into the driveway at around 5:30pm. I usually don't check the mail, but I did just because I was expecting mail. There was an envelope and YES it had my name on it. In the left corner it had my best friends name and mailing address. I smiled as soooo many thoughts ran through my mind as to what it was. I couldn't wait to open it. So I did ... as I was walking down my street toward my house. It was a card;It read:
" Just a reminder... you are special! No matter what happens, I will be here for you.
Always remember that butterflies are beautiful and free!"
Inside the card was a note. It was folded in half. It read:
" Lessons of life...
I feared being alone until
I realized to like myself.
I feared failure until i realized
that I only fail when i don't try.
I feared rejection until I learned
to have faith in myself.
I feared pain until I realized
that it's necessary for growth.
I feared my destiny until I realized
I had the power to change my life.
I feared change until I realized that
even the most beautiful butterfly had
to undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly. "
This poem summarizes everything I want to be. I recently tattooed a small butterfly on my right hip. Its something I always wanted to get. It always represented freedom to me, but now its so much more.
I am not a butterfly yet. I hope to become one someday. I have so much work to do on myself. So much truth to tell and not fear the outcome, learn to except rejection, to believe that I have the power to change what I can, and to accept the things that I can not change.
Dear friends that is for now.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
" Just a reminder... you are special! No matter what happens, I will be here for you.
Always remember that butterflies are beautiful and free!"
Inside the card was a note. It was folded in half. It read:
" Lessons of life...
I feared being alone until
I realized to like myself.
I feared failure until i realized
that I only fail when i don't try.
I feared rejection until I learned
to have faith in myself.
I feared pain until I realized
that it's necessary for growth.
I feared my destiny until I realized
I had the power to change my life.
I feared change until I realized that
even the most beautiful butterfly had
to undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly. "
This poem summarizes everything I want to be. I recently tattooed a small butterfly on my right hip. Its something I always wanted to get. It always represented freedom to me, but now its so much more.
I am not a butterfly yet. I hope to become one someday. I have so much work to do on myself. So much truth to tell and not fear the outcome, learn to except rejection, to believe that I have the power to change what I can, and to accept the things that I can not change.
Dear friends that is for now.
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
Can you be alone?
Can a person be alone for a long period of time and not feel like they need a romantic partner or a friend to talk to? Does one become a "loner" if they do.
I believe that every person should find in their own way how to be alone. Its important. Here is why I think we all should.
After a brake up with your romantic lover, we feel lonely, hurt, dumped, unloved, unlinked, we feel like the whole world has crashed on top of our heads and there is no way out. We seek comfort from family and friends...which helps...because they tell you everything we already know...so its temporary. So...we party and start meeting new people to help a numb the pain. Our friends are excited couse we are "single" and they have a new party buddy, and you are getting all the attention you need. Couse you are weak.
Sure you are a sexy party animal and all the boys and girls want you...do you realize that you have the pain still inside you.?Do you realize that its suppressing and its not going away?
You met someone only after a couple of days...or weeks. Oh its great! Who cares about your EX...what a looser. What was I thinking? Right?
Well the new person 9/10 will be the wrong person for you, because you have attracted someone like you, someone that is going through their own suppressed pain. Do you think it will last? Nope. Rebounds never do. Sooner or later it will end in a disaster.
So, you are hurt again. Not as bad this time, but you keep going... "more fish in the sea!"
Someone once told me in High School : " giving your self is like putting duct tape on your hairy arm...then you rip it...ouch!...use the same duct tape and place it on the same spot a min later...then rip it again...ouch but not as bad...do it now until it doesn't hurt anymore...".
We never give ourselves a chance to heal and be alone. Who are you? We give so much of ourselves to the people that we care so much about that we forget to learn about "ME".
Stop the cycle...just stop and think of who you are and what you want to become...the only way to find out is to be alone. Not a week or a month... once you are ready you will know.
Till next time,
DS
P.S. One day at a time
I believe that every person should find in their own way how to be alone. Its important. Here is why I think we all should.
After a brake up with your romantic lover, we feel lonely, hurt, dumped, unloved, unlinked, we feel like the whole world has crashed on top of our heads and there is no way out. We seek comfort from family and friends...which helps...because they tell you everything we already know...so its temporary. So...we party and start meeting new people to help a numb the pain. Our friends are excited couse we are "single" and they have a new party buddy, and you are getting all the attention you need. Couse you are weak.
Sure you are a sexy party animal and all the boys and girls want you...do you realize that you have the pain still inside you.?Do you realize that its suppressing and its not going away?
You met someone only after a couple of days...or weeks. Oh its great! Who cares about your EX...what a looser. What was I thinking? Right?
Well the new person 9/10 will be the wrong person for you, because you have attracted someone like you, someone that is going through their own suppressed pain. Do you think it will last? Nope. Rebounds never do. Sooner or later it will end in a disaster.
So, you are hurt again. Not as bad this time, but you keep going... "more fish in the sea!"
Someone once told me in High School : " giving your self is like putting duct tape on your hairy arm...then you rip it...ouch!...use the same duct tape and place it on the same spot a min later...then rip it again...ouch but not as bad...do it now until it doesn't hurt anymore...".
We never give ourselves a chance to heal and be alone. Who are you? We give so much of ourselves to the people that we care so much about that we forget to learn about "ME".
Stop the cycle...just stop and think of who you are and what you want to become...the only way to find out is to be alone. Not a week or a month... once you are ready you will know.
Till next time,
DS
P.S. One day at a time
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Never make someone a priority when they make you an option
I am not a medical doctor or even a University Graduate. I am a 27 year old woman that has been on both sides of love. You know... feeling where the whole world shuts down.... and the ultimate nightmare of realizing you are not sleeping, this pain is real.
On this blog I want to share my experiences about love and other relationships. I will blog stories and thoughts that come both from me and people in my life that share them with me.
I want to start of with a quote. "... never make someone a priority when they only make you an option."-unknown
What does that mean?
Many of us put our selves last. We seem to care more of how the other person feels about us or what they think of us, that we forget who we are. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you try so hard to please the other person and never step back and see if they would do the same for you. Yes. We all do it. Well its time to stop. Why you ask?
There is a voice inside of us and we don't listen. That voice that tells you " hey! what are you doing?"..."is it all worth it?"... " you know this is wrong!"... " you will hurt after, you know you will." Yet, we still do it. Its like we close our ears and eyes and run after someone... who doesn't care.
It sounds stupid doesn't it? We make excuses to ourselves over and over again, explaining the situation in our minds, how its complicated. Is it complicated? Or do we make it complicated?
Is it because it hurts to let go of something that failed? Does it go back to our childhood where we were bruised by rejection? How can we love someone if they don't love us back? Is it love? OR is it infatuation with something you can't have?
I want my blog to be a place where we can share pain and bliss of love.
This is it for now. I will blog every chance I get.
Enjoy!
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
On this blog I want to share my experiences about love and other relationships. I will blog stories and thoughts that come both from me and people in my life that share them with me.
I want to start of with a quote. "... never make someone a priority when they only make you an option."-unknown
What does that mean?
Many of us put our selves last. We seem to care more of how the other person feels about us or what they think of us, that we forget who we are. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you try so hard to please the other person and never step back and see if they would do the same for you. Yes. We all do it. Well its time to stop. Why you ask?
There is a voice inside of us and we don't listen. That voice that tells you " hey! what are you doing?"..."is it all worth it?"... " you know this is wrong!"... " you will hurt after, you know you will." Yet, we still do it. Its like we close our ears and eyes and run after someone... who doesn't care.
It sounds stupid doesn't it? We make excuses to ourselves over and over again, explaining the situation in our minds, how its complicated. Is it complicated? Or do we make it complicated?
Is it because it hurts to let go of something that failed? Does it go back to our childhood where we were bruised by rejection? How can we love someone if they don't love us back? Is it love? OR is it infatuation with something you can't have?
I want my blog to be a place where we can share pain and bliss of love.
This is it for now. I will blog every chance I get.
Enjoy!
DS
P.S. One day at a time.
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